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Living An Enriched Life

Welcome to  the Hayden Center For Educational Excellence.   

My name is Lee Hayden and I’m very pleased you are visiting my website.  I hope you will visit again and again.  Please feel free to contact me by mobile phone at 702-945-1294 or by email at  

I believe that the quality of our life derives from the quality of the questions we ask.  My question is:

How do I experience a more enriched life?

I am convinced that answering this question is imperative.  Most people, however, are less convinced and go about their business of daily living.

The next sections provide a glimpse of both what living a more enriched life means and the Hayden Center educational content.

Section I.   Introduction and The Self-Acutualization Program Candidate

Section II.  The Self-Actualized Person
Section III. Centralized Thinking

Section IV. The Unconscious and The Conscious Mind

Section V.  Recapitulation

Section VI. Conclusions

Section I.  Introduction and The Self-Actualization Program Candidate

Even from a very young age, we human beings affirm that human life is precious  - even sacred. It’s because of the deeply rootedness of this  affirmation that happiness and meaning are of paramount importance.   By deeply rooted, we mean this affirmation is an integral part and at the deepest level of the human condition and it is shared, without exception,  by all human beings.   Abraham Maslow’s hierarchical chart of human needs, presented below, is a well-accepted identification of the human condition.  

The abover graphical depiction of the human condition as a triangle with hierarchical levels/various symbols  indicates that fulfillment of the happiness and meaning need is a increasingly difficult struggle.

Many students and individuals are not yet enrolled or committed to the Hayden Center self-actualization program but remain open to program possibilities. These students and individuals are self-actualization program candidates and are characterized in Table 1 below.

Section II. The Self-Actualized Person

According to Maslow, the highest level of personal achievement is self-actualization. At the Hayden Center, self-actualization is the first of three levels of high personal achievement and is a high level of consciousness.  The remaining two are the personal true-self and the community true-self and are higher levels of consciousness. Achievement of self-actualization is a pre-requisite for the latter two.

An interpretation and modification of Maslow’s  characterization of a self-actualized person as used at the Hayden Center is presented in Table 2.  

As shown in Table 2,  a self-actualized person has high cognitive, emotional, social, and moral intelligences.  

Section III. Centralized Thinking

The previous discussion has characterized a self-actualized person as possessing a high level of consciousness. As mentioned above, the Hayden Center also addresses the higher programs of becoming our “personal true-self” and/or our “community true-self”.  One of the key aspects of these two programs is an examination of our thought processes. Table 3 below presents four categories of thought among which our thoughts fleetingly and automatically move.  The thoughts of most people tend to center in a particular category. These central tendencies are thinking based on feelings, thinking based on beliefs, thinking based on facts, and thinking based on ideas.

Normal people are capable of thoughts using each the four thought levels. Unfortunately, many people limit themselves to the lower levels or to a particular level or don’t experience thinking based on ideas. People in these situation33s are unable to experience an enriched lifestyle and participate in the full human adventure.

As we already know or will discover, reframing observations can sometimes provide better clarity.  Therefore, our reframed observations see some people conforming to their environment, other people adapting, and still other people learning from and changing their environment.  If we are an astute observer, we become aware that the people generally  categorized as learning from their environment frequently conform to their environment.  Still further observations lead to the conclusion that this latter group of people know when to learn and when to conform, i.e., they are able to make wise choices.  The group fixed on conforming is least wise and makes poor choices related to finding happiness and meaning.

Section IV. The Unconscious and The Conscious Mind

Our conscious intelligence experiences the world
and struggles for a cognitive understanding
of personal experiences.

The human mind is truly an amazing, complex, and not yet well understood property of the  physical reality produced by the self-organizing universe. Despite use of the term “self-organizing”  and the perspective of many physicists, science has not concluded the existence of a final cause of reality or why the universe appears to organize as observed.  Nevertheless, science has determined that:

Each of us has multiple intelligencies
each intelligence has both conscious and unconscious components.

Thus, our conscious intelligence observes some people finding happiness and meaning but many other people finding various levels of discouragement and loss of motivation.

Our conscious intelligence experiences the world
and struggles for a cognitive  understanding
and enhancement of personal experiences.

At the highest levels of consciousness, our cognitive intelligence experiences the world and struggles for both a cognitive and emotional understanding and enhancement of personal experiences.

People recognize the existence of their consciousness intelligence, but often do not accept the existence of their unconscious intelligence. Our unconscious intelligence plays a much greater role in our lives than previously thought.

Our unconscious intelligence also experiences the world
and struggles for an emotional understanding
of personal experiences.

Section V.  Recapitulation

Clearly, the quality of a person’s life is directly proportional to the quality of  choices made by that person.  Most people confess making multiple  poor choices. Some people are able to recover from poor choices, but many are not. You may be a person who has make some poor choices and now desires to make a mid-course correction to achieve a more meaningful life.  Or, you may be a young person who is starting their life and  recognizes  the critical  importance of dialog with a life coach or mentor.  Or, you may be a troubled person with a major need of guidance.  

Unfortunately, consistently making wise choices can be  an elusive and potentially difficult task.  The problem is that our choices emerge from beliefs within our personal belief system.  We are consciously aware of some beliefs but other beliefs exists without our  conscious awareness, That is, this latter group of beliefs exist partially or totally unconsciously.   Each belief in our personal belief system is traceable to and reflects a personal value.

Principle #1.  Our personal belief system contains beliefs and values that limit our personal growth to a higher level of consciousness.

If you are a person seeking a more meaningful life, then:

 Your first task is an acute characterization of your personal belief system
(recognizing individual beliefs and values as they presently exist)


Your second task is achievement of a higher level of consciousness
by enmeshment in the repetitive process of being, doing, and becoming
(changing individual beliefs and values).

 If you want to talk about your situation, please phone me at 702-945-1294.


Section VI. Conclusion

The Hayden Center provides three programs designed to provide increasing levels of lifestyle enrichment:  self-actualization, your personal true-self, or your community true-self. The self-actualization program is applicable to the majority of students seeking a happier and more meaningful life.  This particular program is designed to fulfill the needs outlined in Maslow’s concept of the human condition.

It is anticipated that a student satisfactorily completing each course in the full complement of courses in the self-actualization program will have discovered a happier and more meaningful life. However, recognizing that students have various staring points, it is also  anticipated that many students may not need the full complement of courses to achieve their desired level of happiness and meaning.

For further discussion, please review the free brief course, “BC-Purpose and Vision”.

Most people already have a conscious awareness of each hierarchical need and strive to fullfill each need in the ascending order shown.  The need for happiness and meaning, depicted by the vertical yellow arrow, is a reminder that this need is embedded in each hierarchical level.  Weak fullfillment of the happiness and meaning need can possibly occur at the physiological level,  but true fulfillment occurs at the self-actualization level.

Table 2.  
The Self-Actualized Person


Represents a high state of consciousness


Understands that a person is a complex intersection of responsibilities, loyalties, devotions, personal endeavors, unique experiences, education, personal beliefs, unfinished ideas, financial state, and material possessions


Prizes reality-based thinking. Reality is presently described by the self-organizing universe paradigm


Continuously raises level of consciousness  by education, introspection, and in council with peers or mentors


Maintains knowledge and actively strives to reolve community, national, and global issues


Is a proud person. Stands tall, sits tall, shoulders back, and relaxed posture


Possesses high self-esteem, high self-awareness, and self-efficacy


Possesses, maintains, and builds caring relationships including special partner, family, extended family, and friends


Understands that personal meaning requires contribution to a cause greater than himself/herself during each lifespan phase


Has learned the benefits of expanded scope of thinking. Recognizes that beliefs sometimes limit out thinking and strives to get past limiting beliefs.  Thinks outside the box.


Possesses high cognitive intelligence, emotional intelligence, emotional intelligence, social intelligence, and moral intelligence


Understands the peril of teasing another person


Appreciates skepticism  as the chastity of the intellect. Listens intently to other people's ideas, recognizes ideas of value


Constructs a a personal vision of himself/herself for each past and future lifespan phase


Documents self-assessment journal for each lifespan phase


Possesses excellent working vocabulary and diction

Table 3.

Central Tendencies of Human Thinking

Methods of processing human experience

Thinking based on feelings

Thinking based on beliefs

Thinking based on facts

Thinking based on ideas

Use of multiple intelligences




Very High

Scope of personhood

Instinctual person

Typical person

Self-actualized person

True-self person

Scope of environmental influence

Rigidly conforms to environment

Conforming to environment

Adapting to environment

Learning & changing environment

Influence of reality

Minimal.  Emotions dominate thoughts

Values dictated primarily by others

Basic reality testing

Creates new personal realities

Scope of reasoning

Reasons dominated by emotions

Reasons only within framework of beliefs

Relies on factual descriptions

Understands that facts grow from ideas, constructs new ideas

Moral Accountability


Limited to belief system

Based on superficial information sources

Accepts individual responsibility

Intelligence Quotient (I.Q.)





Behavioral Adaptability


Only as part of belief group

Crude stimulus response processing

Flexible, fully adaptable

Perception of reality

Passive sensory experience

Reality is filtered by beliefs

Progresses by successive approximation

Proactively builds physical and mental environment

Living An Enriched Life

Table 1
 Self-Actualization Program Candidates


Accepts "How do I experience an enriched life?" as a high quality and imperative question


Thoughts of the mind tend to center on ideas instead of emotional or pragmatic content


Recognizes that despite high satisfaction with our personal belief system, we have beliefs that limit our ability to achieve and enriched lifestyle. Wants to expand scope of thinking


Learning about the Maslow self-actualization concept


Have not yet achieved full Maslow self-actualization


Learning about modern perspectives on self-esteem, love and belonging, safety, or physiological issues for personal benefits


Learning about the practices of self-esteem: living consciously, self-acceptance, self-responsibility, living purposely, personal integrity


Learning about the self-organizing universe paradigm. This paradigm represents the present scientific understanding of reality and is essential knowledge for reality based thinking.