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Living An Enriched Life

Welcome to  the Hayden Center For Educational Excellence.   

My name is Lee Hayden and I’m very pleased you are visiting my website.  I hope you will visit again and again.  Please feel free to contact me by mobile phone at 702-945-1294 or by email at  

According to the human condition, all human beings have a deeply embedded desire to live a happy and meaningful life. Fulfilling this desire during life’s journey is a struggle for everyone. Although, seemingly non-existent or minimal for many people, the struggle is experienced by everyone.  Unfortunately,  real life situations associated with the business of daily living often cause detours, potholds, blind spots, roadblocks, and other interferences of various levels during our journjey. . . . . . .What has happened? Why are so many people facing unhappiness or even personal misery? Why are so many people unable to find meaning in their lives?  What are these real life situations causing unhappiness?  What can be done to minimize or eliminate their negative effects? What are the causes of human misery? What is the role of education? Do people have free will?  Am I the master of my fate?

Perhaps, answering these questions is an impossible task. Numerous professionals and ordinary people have reflected on these questions throughout the ages and have presented perspectives on  identification, causes, solutions of these real life situations.  None of the solutions have had staying power.  However, many of them have  contributed something of value to our Man’s knowledge base. It is quite likely that future contributions will evolve into a workable solution. Hopefully, this website will make a valuable contribution to knowledge that helps people achieved a more enriched life.

Impossible tasks are worth attempting because mistakes and errors - as long as it is possible to demonstrate that they are mistakes - have long played a very significant role in the discovery of truth. Thus, I recognize that is quite impossible to predict that my personal contribution will add to our knowledge base.


Recognizing and asking questions about those situations must be addressed and resolved.  In fact, enhancing the quality of  life starts from the quality of the questions  asked and expands or contracts based on choices made among quality answers.   My question is:

How does a person experience a more enriched life?

From my individual perspective, answering this question is imperative. For a variety of reasons, other people have different perspectives and I respect their viewpoint.

The next sections provide a glimpse of both what living a more enriched life means and the Hayden Center educational content.

Section I.   The Self-Actualization Candidate

Section II.  The Self-Actualized Person
Section III. Centered Thinking Hurdles

Section IV.  Free Mind Hurdles

Section V.  Approaching the Personal True-Self

Section VI. Approaching the Community True-Self

Section I.  The Self-Actualization Candidate

Even from a very young age, we human beings affirm that human life is precious  - even sacred. It’s because of the deeply rootedness of this  affirmation that happiness and meaning are of paramount importance.   By deeply rooted, we mean this affirmation is an integral part and at the deepest level of the human condition and it is shared, without exception,  by all human beings.   Abraham Maslow’s hierarchical chart of human needs, presented below, is a well-accepted identification of the human condition.  

The above graphical depiction of the human condition as a triangle with hierarchical levels/various symbols  indicates that fulfillment of the happiness and meaning need is a increasingly difficult struggle.

For our purposes, happiness and meaning shall be defined at three levels: relative, actual, and true happiness. Relative happiness is achievable at Maslow levels below self-actualization, actual is achievable at self-actualization, and true is achievable above self-actualization. At each level, happiness includes accumulation of wealth and materiel possessions and an associated level of consciousness.

Many students and individuals are not yet enrolled or committed to the Hayden Center self-actualization program but remain open to program possibilities. These students and individuals are self-actualization program candidates and are characterized in Table 1a below.

Striving for self-actualization would be difficult or impossible for some people.  People identified in Table 1b will probably not do well in class assignments.

Section II. The Self-Actualized Person

According to Maslow, the highest level of personal achievement is self-actualization. At the Hayden Center, self-actualization is the first of three levels of high personal achievement and is a high level of consciousness.  The remaining two are the personal true-self and the community true-self and are higher levels of consciousness. Achievement of self-actualization is a pre-requisite for the latter two.

An interpretation and modification of Maslow’s  characterization of a self-actualized person as used at the Hayden Center is presented in Table 2.  

As shown in Table 2,  a self-actualized person has high cognitive, emotional, social, and moral intelligences.  

Section III. Centered Thinking Hurdles

The previous discussion has characterized a self-actualized person as possessing a high level of consciousness. As mentioned above, the Hayden Center also addresses the higher programs of becoming our “personal true-self” and/or our “community true-self”.  One of the key aspects of these two programs is an examination of our thought processes. Table 3 below presents four categories of thought among which our thoughts fleetingly and automatically move.  The thoughts of most people tend to center in a particular category. These central tendencies are thinking based on feelings, thinking based on beliefs, thinking based on facts, and thinking based on ideas.

Normal people are capable of thoughts using each the four thought levels. Unfortunately, many people limit themselves to the lower levels or to a particular level or don’t experience thinking based on ideas. People in these situations are unable to experience an enriched lifestyle and participate in the full human adventure.

As we already know or will discover, reframing observations can sometimes provide better clarity.  Therefore, our reframed observations see some people conforming to their environment, other people adapting, and still other people learning from and changing their environment.  If we are an astute observer, we become aware that the people generally  categorized as learning from their environment frequently conform to their environment.  Still further observations lead to the conclusion that this latter group of people know when to learn and when to conform, i.e., they are able to make wise choices.  The group fixed on conforming is least wise and makes poor choices related to finding happiness and meaning.

Section IV. The Free Mind Hurdles

Our conscious intelligence experiences the world
and struggles for a cognitive understanding
of personal experiences.

The human mind is truly an amazing, complex, and not yet well understood property of the  physical reality produced by the self-organizing universe. Despite use of the term “self-organizing”  and the perspective of many physicists, science has not concluded the existence of a final cause of reality or why the universe appears to organize as observed.  Nevertheless, science has determined that:

Each of us has multiple intelligences
each intelligence has both conscious and unconscious components.

Thus, our conscious intelligence observes some people finding happiness and meaning but many other people finding various levels of discouragement and loss of motivation.

Our conscious intelligence experiences the world
and struggles for a cognitive  understanding
and enhancement of personal experiences.

At the highest levels of consciousness, our cognitive intelligence experiences the world and struggles for both a cognitive and emotional understanding and enhancement of personal experiences.

People recognize the existence of their consciousness intelligence, but often do not accept the existence of their unconscious intelligence. Our unconscious intelligence plays a much greater role in our lives than previously thought.

Our unconscious intelligence also experiences the world
and struggles for an emotional understanding
of personal experiences.

Section V.  Approaching The Personal True-Self

[Included only in the short course]

Section VI.  Approaching The Community True-Self

The lifestyle of individuals almost always progresses forward when they are open-minded and ask quality questions about life.  These individuals who understand the facts of reality and generate ideas that eventually change themselves or reality itself are known as seekers.  As answers are discovered, the lifestyle states of being for these seekers progresses from self-actualization, through personal true-self, and eventually to  community true-self. Each progression is an enhanced lifestyle enrichment.

At some point in time, seekers in the personal true-self state of being  begin to take two ancient debates more seriously.  The first debate is between “making choices and the fates.” The question is: should a person make conscious choices and activate a self-developed plan for their life or just deal with each life situation as it occurs.  In our case, the individual has previously  chosen self-actualization followed by  the personal true-self

The second ancient debate is known as “the one or the many.”  The debate involves many questions.  Is it better for people to be highly integrated as individuals at the risk of losing diversity in their lives, or is it better to develop many sides of one’s personality and risk of losing intensity or excellence in any one area?  Should society strive for a strong and efficient  centralized government in order to solve social problems, or should it resist efforts at coordinated integration and centralized planning to preserve multiple governments at state, city, and local  communities?   In our case, “the one” is the personal true-self and “the many” is the community true-self.

The individual is most adequately understood in the context of a wide variety concrete relationships, loyalties, and networks of obligation. The unique individual is the point of intersection of a wide variety of physical, social-culturally, and religious forces and cannot gain self-understanding without attention to these interdependencies.  To be sure, the individual has a will that cannot be reduced to genetic, social, or cultural causation's,

Clearly, the quality of a person’s life is directly proportional to the quality of  choices made by that person.  Most people confess making multiple  poor choices. Some people are able to recover from poor choices, but many are not. You may be a person who has make some poor choices and now desires to make a mid-course correction to achieve a more meaningful life.  Or, you may be a young person who is starting their life and  recognizes  the critical  importance of dialog with a life coach or mentor.  Or, you may be a troubled person with a major need of guidance.  

Unfortunately, consistently making wise choices can be  an elusive and potentially difficult task.  The problem is that our choices emerge from beliefs within our personal belief system.  We are consciously aware of some beliefs but other beliefs exists without our  conscious awareness, That is, this latter group of beliefs exist partially or totally unconsciously.   Each belief in our personal belief system is traceable to and reflects a personal value.

Principle #1.  Our personal belief system contains beliefs and values that limit our personal growth to a higher level of consciousness.

If you are a person seeking a more meaningful life, then:

 Your first task is an acute characterization of your personal belief system
(recognizing individual beliefs and values as they presently exist)


Your second task is achievement of a higher level of consciousness
by enmeshment in the repetitive process of being, doing, and becoming
(changing individual beliefs and values).

 If you want to talk about your situation, please phone me at 702-945-1294.


Section VI. Conclusion

The Hayden Center provides three programs designed to provide increasing levels of lifestyle enrichment:  self-actualization, your personal true-self, or your community true-self. The self-actualization program is applicable to the majority of students seeking a happier and more meaningful life.  This particular program is designed to fulfill the needs outlined in Maslow’s concept of the human condition.

It is anticipated that a student satisfactorily completing each course in the full complement of courses in the self-actualization program will have discovered a happier and more meaningful life. However, recognizing that students have various staring points, it is also  anticipated that many students may not need the full complement of courses to achieve their desired level of happiness and meaning.

For further discussion, please review the free brief course, “BC-Purpose and Vision”.

Most people already have a conscious awareness of each hierarchical need and strive to fullfill each need in the ascending order shown.  The need for happiness and meaning, depicted by the vertical yellow arrow, is a reminder that this need is embedded in each hierarchical level.  Weak fullfillment of the happiness and meaning need can possibly occur at the physiological level,  but true fulfillment occurs at the self-actualization level.

Table 2.  
The Self-Actualized Person


Vision sees self as self-actualized. Builds personal life to benefit nuclear family and contribute values to others outside nuclear family. Acquires wealth and material ownership for educational purposes and future security.


Represents a high state of consciousness


Understands that a person is a complex intersection of responsibilities, loyalties, devotions, personal endeavors, unique experiences, education, personal beliefs, unfinished ideas, financial state, and material possessions


Prizes reality-based thinking. Reality is presently described by the self-organizing universe paradigm


Continuously raises level of consciousness  by education, introspection, and in council with peers or mentors


Maintains knowledge and actively strives to reolve community, national, and global issues


Is a proud person. Stands tall, sits tall, shoulders back, and relaxed posture


Possesses high self-esteem, high self-awareness, and self-efficacy


Possesses, maintains, and builds caring relationships including special partner, family, extended family, and friends


Understands that personal meaning requires contribution to a cause greater than himself/herself during each lifespan phase


Has learned the benefits of expanded scope of thinking. Recognizes that beliefs sometimes limit out thinking and strives to get past limiting beliefs.  Thinks outside the box.


Possesses high cognitive intelligence, emotional intelligence, emotional intelligence, social intelligence, and moral intelligence


Understands the peril of teasing another person


Appreciates skepticism  as the chastity of the intellect. Listens intently to other people's ideas, recognizes ideas of value


Constructs a a personal vision of himself/herself for each past and future lifespan phase


Documents self-assessment journal for each lifespan phase


Possesses excellent working vocabulary and diction

Table 3.

Central Tendencies of Human Thinking

Methods of processing human experience

Thinking based on feelings

Thinking based on beliefs

Thinking based on facts

Thinking based on ideas

Use of multiple intelligences




Very High

Scope of personhood

Instinctual person

Typical person

Self-actualized person

True-self person

Scope of environmental influence

Rigidly conforms to environment

Conforming to environment

Adapting to environment

Learning & changing environment

Influence of reality

Minimal.  Emotions dominate thoughts

Values dictated primarily by others

Basic reality testing

Creates new personal realities

Scope of reasoning

Reasons dominated by emotions

Reasons only within framework of beliefs

Relies on factual descriptions

Understands that facts grow from ideas, constructs new ideas

Moral Accountability


Limited to belief system

Based on superficial information sources

Accepts individual responsibility

Intelligence Quotient (I.Q.)





Behavioral Adaptability


Only as part of belief group

Crude stimulus response processing

Flexible, fully adaptable

Perception of reality

Passive sensory experience

Reality is filtered by beliefs

Progresses by successive approximation

Proactively builds physical and mental environment

Table 1a
 Self-Actualization Program Candidates


Vision not yet defined


Accepts "How do I experience an enriched life?" as a high quality and imperative question


Thoughts of the mind tend to center on ideas instead of emotional or pragmatic content


Recognizes that despite high satisfaction with our personal belief system, we have beliefs that limit our ability to achieve and enriched lifestyle. Wants to expand scope of thinking


Learning about the Maslow self-actualization concept


Have not yet achieved full Maslow self-actualization


Learning about modern perspectives on self-esteem, love and belonging, safety, or physiological issues for personal benefits


Learning about the practices of self-esteem: living consciously, self-acceptance, self-responsibility, living purposely, personal integrity


Learning about the self-organizing universe paradigm. This paradigm represents the present scientific understanding of reality and is essential knowledge for reality based thinking.


Table 4
The Free Minded Person


Recognizes that all people have thoughts and actions that are motivated positively or negatively by an unconscious intelligence. Our unconscious intelligence 1) includes support during the learning process and 2) is protective of our self-esteem


Recognizes that anger at others is the result of an unfree mind and can dramatically  influence structure an unhealthy lifestyle. The wise choice is to determine the unconscious source of anger and retrain unconscious intelligence.

Table 5

The Personal True-Self


Vision sees self approaching the personal true-self


Inherits Self-Actualization personality traits


Improved ability to center thoughts


Improved ability to exercise free will


Demonstrates personal presence


Able to teach the great disciplines


Willingness to be changed by another person

Table 6

The Community True-Self


Vision sees self approaching the community true-self


Inherits Personal True-Self personality traits


Rejects the concept of rugged individualism

Table 1b

Not Yet Ready As Self-Actualization Program Candidate


More than mildly neurotic or more than mildly personality disordered


Religious objections


Not yet ready to engage parents, family, or friends to deal with difficult issues